When You Move To a New House, Does It Still Feel Like Home?
In the spring of 2012 Julie & her family hit rock bottom. They finally realized, after years of dreaming, that it was time to leap. 6 months later they have moved to a small island in BC from their home in Vancouver, quit their jobs and re-focused their life on their kids. Julie’s blog “3 Chickens and a Boat” follows their journey, shares their stories as they face their fears and redefine success for themselves.
I am sometimes caught in the daze of days . . . like when you are driving home from dropping the kids at school and suddenly realize you are already at the turn off. I work hard at trying to imprint moments in my memory so I can remember the feel of them forever.
Moments like bringing babies home, holiday parties, summer water fights.
Except these memories that I imprinted, well, they were all centered around our last home, the home we moved from this summer.
So here we sit, in a new house, and a loaner house at that . . . a place that isn’t really ours, on an island that we are still getting to know.
So, is it home? Is it a place that we can build lasting memories in? Or, should we stay “unattached” for the sake of the kids? Keep our distance from making memories her, to help save them the sadness of leaving it someday?
But here’s the thing . . . I look back again at those memories we have of our old home, and they aren’t really of the house at all. See, they are all about the people, the laughter and the time.
And that is exactly what we have here . . . time to create memories, or relive old ones in a new environment and the people that matter to me the most surround me every day.
It is really the people that make your house a home, and I know that the crazy dance moves of my 3yr old more than initiate a building into being a home for me.
I haven’t moved much, but I have moved enough times to know that I can be comfortable anywhere. We bring our lives with us . . . they are not left behind. From our squooshy couches to the artwork we thoughtfully chose, our pieces keep our comfort and our people create the spirit of what a home truly is.
So, whether you are downsizing or upgrading, remember a home should be a place that your people can be themselves . . . a place to dance in the living room (if that is what you are into) and giggle in bed (always good for the soul, and libido) a place to welcome friends in comfort, not necessarily elegance, and a place that allows your creativity to unfold, within the constraints of your budget (cause we all have one)
Make your home you . . . because it is YOU that makes a home.
Comments & Reviews
Kyla @ Mommys Weird says
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This is exactly what the doctor ordered. We just moved in a new house and it still feels kind of detached in some way. I guess, everyone of us should really make an effort to make it a home too.
Multi-Testing Mommy says
It’s amazing how much of a connection you can make with someone almost immediately sometimes!
Great guest post!
I don’t like to move, but you are so right….home is about the people who are in it, not the four walls!
Brandi Yee says
Memories are definitely what you make it, no matter where you are 🙂
Home is wherever our loved ones are. I’m glad you’ve found this new piece and I hope you have a very merry holiday season.
Sny Med says
I agree that you should make memories in your “loaner” home. Why would you not? We have so many memories from a cottage that we rented this summer, and the kids talk about the cottage, the lake and the fun we had all the time. And yet it is a loaner…which made an impression. And what made the impression was that we were all together in this loaner.
Mommy Matter says
Moving has always been a hard for me. I’ve done it so many times that I stopped getting attached to homes. My current home, even though it isn’t my forever home, is home. I love it. It is the first place I’ve been happy in, in years. Many memories and many moments all will be cherished in this home 🙂
Cheryl Kirkness says
I try to tell my hubby this all the time when he says he wants to move. 🙂
I’ve lived in a lot of homes over the years of my life. When I finally stopped caring what others thought of my house was when it truly became my home. I’m glad you met her and that you connected!
Shashers Life says
life is better since meeting Julie, I agree. 🙂 This year’s BlissDom, I am so happy to have had the chance to meet so many incredible people. Like sitting next to you at the Marilyn Denis Show. I just wished I wasn’t feeling ill (not to self: never take double your allergy medication on an empty stomach moments before heading into a warm, well lit studio), I would have talked more with you in between the breaks. Next time…