My Journey Through Infertility and IVF
The story of infertility is a varied one. There are plenty of women who struggle, and the reasons are probably unique to each one of them. Its Christmas time, and for us Christians of the world, it’s a time to celebrate the birth of baby Jesus. There was a time in my life that the thought of a virgin being pregnant pissed me off. Sacrilegious, sorry, but I was indoctrinated by the media that it only takes once! Stories of women getting pregnant on birth control or unexpectedly made my eyes roll. I was unable to get pregnant on my own, and the people of the world were flaunting it in my face. I also refused to talk about it. I told everyone that I had plenty of time for kids, I loved being an Aunt, or I loved my job. While all true, I just wanted the decision about kids to be mine, and not something out of my control.
There comes a time, when living in suburbia, surrounded by ideal families with their 2.2 kids, golden retrievers, and white mini vans, when you notice the other people who are also childless. It was then that I made an infertile friend. We slowly began to confide in each other. What tests we had done, what our hormone levels were at, becoming human pincushions, and paying hundreds of extra to get your blood work done at the hospital because your 21st day of your cycle happens to fall on Christmas Eve and no clinics are open. We unknowingly formed a group of like minded strugglers; the women in the waiting rooms.
The Women In The Waiting Room
I always envisioned infertility affecting women trying to get pregnant in their 40’s or the rare person who has a condition makes conceiving difficult. TWWR (The Women in the Waiting Rooms) were my age, healthy, active, just like me. It is estimated that 1 in 5 (20%) of couples in Canada experience infertility: the inability to conceive after one year.
This Christmas I am planning on enjoying my time with my 3 sons. My presents are wrapped, the tree is up, and I get to spend the next few weeks not running around like a chicken with my head cut off. and focus on making new memories and traditions with my family.
Going through infertility is hard enough, without having to worry about paying thousands for In Vitro Fertilization. In Alberta, 67% of the population believe that IVF should be covered by provincial health care. I signed the petition here and you can as well. I also emailed it to my MLA. Feel free to share the petition with friends and family as well.
This is part 1 of a 4 part series on IVF and infertility. I am a valued member of the Generations of Hope #ABHC4IVF blog team. As such, I received compensation, but this is my story, and my opinions.
Comments & Reviews
Brooklyn Berry says
Thanks for sharing with me Shauna. I am amazed at just how many people can relate to this. A close knit family is the best thing you could ever wish for!
Christine McN says
Wow! Blessed indeed 🙂 I’m looking forward to reading the rest of the series on IVF and infertility. Recently, we’ve been hearing more and more friends and family sharing their stories.
Leslie Brooks says
This was beautifully written Brooke. Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful Christmas with your family!
Paula Schuck says
I adore you even more after reading this. Thanks Brooke for sharing. I went through infertility and after years of illness and trying with Clomid I adopted two beautiful girls with my husband. I love that you are really clear about the fact that infertility is not an issue that simply impacts women in their 40s. A woman’s fertility declines at 28! That’s so contrary to anything I ever learned while going through health class which was all about periods and not getting pregnant. I met a lady yesterday who was 27 with PCOS. Her doctor told her she was nuts and she had lots of time to have kids. But she was very informed and she told him no, I have PCOS and I want more than one child. I have to start thinking about fertility now. And so she is now a parent, apparently as a result of clomid too. It matters less how a family is formed and more what you do with your family once it is given to you.
Have a great holiday.
Mommy Moment says
I did not realize how common infertility was until I had a close friend go through it. Thanks for sharing your story.
Wonderful story. I had not considered how the story of the Virgin Mary could be upsetting to someone going through infertility but that makes sense.
[email protected] Design for Living says
Thanks for sharing, Brooke. I am so fortunate to have one son. After years of infertility and no success in having another, I decided to put it to rest and feel grateful for what I do have. Sometimes I have those “what if” moments and feel bad for my son that he doesn’t have any siblings, but he has great friends and we’re a close knit family. I do feel blessed.
Thanks for sharing, Brooke! I look forward to reading the rest of the series and I hope that this Christmas, with your 3 beautiful boys, is your best one yet!
Cheryl Kirkness says
Thanks for sharing your story! I was one of the lucky ones that got pregnant as soon as we decided to have a child. My best friend tried for 2.5 years to get pregnant and it was always so hard to see her get her hopes up each month and then not be pregnant again. I don’t think anyone knows how hard it is unless they are in the same situation. I’m happy to report that she now has 2 beautiful children! 🙂
What an amazing story! I was one of the lucky ones that was able to conceive within months of deciding to. I can’t image in the frustration and emotional roller coaster you went on. You have 3 beautiful children and are blessed to have a GREAT CHRISTMAS! Thanks for sharing!! I look forward to reading the next 3 parts!
Kathryn Lavallee says
What a great story, thanks for sharing it Brooke! So glad it has such a wonderful ending…or maybe I should say a wonderful beginning!
Brandi Yee says
Thank you so much for sharing your story!! So many people can relate to infertility and there’s so many misconceptions too (especially with age). Enjoy Christmas with your beautiful family!!!
JaShawndra Robinson says
Thanks for sharing, I can’t wait to read the rest of the series
Kelly R says
Thank you for sharing your story.
Mary Walker says
Awesome story, thanks for sharing.
Jill Herbst says
Loved reading about your infertility I still hate talking about but I’m very thankful for kids even they are 6 years apart. Your boys are so handsome even when they are screaming.